In a bit of frustration I decided to Google “Lazy Husband”. Expecting to get a lot of complaining forum posts, I stumbled across a couple of articles offering ‘tips’ on how to deal with your lazy husband. I thought all the points were rather silly but there were two that especially stood out that I just have to complain about.
1. “If you’re a stay at home mom or housewife you shouldn’t expect you husband do to work around the house, you made this decision together.”
I would be inclined to agree about the housewife thing, because really, you should be doing the housework. As far as a stay at home mom goes, that couldn’t be farther from the truth. Although I do work 4.5 hours a week, I am pretty much a stay at home mom, and I do double the work my husband does every day.
Don’t believe me?
Deacon works - 7.5 hours (8 hours with two 15 minute breaks) per day or 37.5 hours a week.
I work - 4.5 hours a week
I nurse Marcus at least 6 times a day, usually lasting 15 minutes a piece, plus give him baby food 3 times a day, which takes about 10 minutes a piece - for a total of 2 hours a day or 14 hours a week.
Almost half way there and we’ve only calculated working and feeding Marcus. Should we include the fact that I do all the laundry, the dishes, the vacuuming, the sweeping, and most other household chores? I make dinner almost every night, and do all the subsequent cleaning?
Although today is a bit of an exception, so far Deacon has spent a total of an hour out of the office. I have had a grand total of 30 minutes away from the kids today. (a 15 minute shower and 15 minutes where they were both napping at the same time.)
It is not fair for any stay at home mother to be forced to care for her children 24-7 while her husband works for only 40 hours a week. We never get lunch breaks, coffee breaks, or weekends. We’re lucky to get 4 hours of sleep in a row.
2. Thank your husband after he does something around the house. Show your appreciation by cooking him his favorite meal.
Deacon, if you clean the house from top to bottom, I will cook whatever you want. If you clean the toilet, I will ask why you didn’t clean the sink and the bath tub too.
This is absolutely ridiculous. Yes, you should show your appreciation for your husband (as he should for you) but you shouldn’t reward him dramatically for something he should be doing anyway. Nobody rewards me every time I change a diaper or scrub a floor, but I still do them. He should too.
Why my husband doesn’t do things
He’s just stupid. He looks at a messy sink and sees a sink. He doesn’t see the layers of dirt and chocolate piled up. He forgot to put on the dishwasher because he was so excited to play Yakuza. Sometimes he says ‘no’ but then does things anyway, which bothers me that he says no at all, because he doesn’t have the luxury to. At least he works and provides for his family. When he spends time with the kids, they love it. I wish he’d do it more because he does it so well.
I just wish he’d come out of the office and get this screaming baby.
Bored as fuck.
I can’t believe this could be one of my kids future teachers, doctors and lawyers. No offence robotecm, but I just don’t get it. Maybe it’s the hat.
So I guess I’ll update you on my life.
Thats all.
OK maybe it’s not all.
I just bought an $8500 2003 Chevy Avalanche.
I don’t have a driver’s license yet. I’m pretty pleased with the price, it has all leather interior, heated seats, command start and a DVD player.
Come October when I can get my license it will be sweet.
All week it’s been “waaah they’re cutting this in Yakuza” and “waaaah they’re cutting that in Yakuza”, and I’m getting sick of it.
I want to start this article off by saying that I am against developers cutting content in general, especially when the game is already 2 years old. Couple that with a $70 price tag and you have a recipe for disaster.
But then there’s Deacon. He’s following the Sega blog. He’s bitching and moaning about the cut content. “Fuck you Sega” he says. He even wrote a comprehensive article complaining about said missing content.
There’s one problem. Whilst the content is missing, he wont be missing it. Did he have any interest in pursing the hostesses in the first two games? No. Will he play Mah Jong more than once? No. Shogi? Not a chance. (It’s an awful game if you ask me.) How about managing the host clubs? Surely not.
But hold on a second. The hostesses ARE in the game, just not the clubs. Sega has not said how you will be meeting the girls and whether or not you can woo them, so right now we’re complaining about Shogi, Mah Jong and playing a work simulator.
Pre-orders are down 75%. That’s a good way to make a statement, yes. If you’re really this disgruntled about the cut content, don’t buy the game. Go ahead and complain. You’re a die-hard fan, and you absolutely won’t accept Sega butchering your baby, right?
Are you people really that angry that you’ll practically guarantee you’ll never see another western Yakuza release, despite there being two others out in Japan? Would a fan completely reject any prospects of future games to prove a point? For content that really isn’t that good?
Yakuza is like a steak, one you’ve really been craving. You ordered it and waited patiently. The table that ordered before you got one of the same that you ordered, and you watched them eat it. It looked delicious. Finally the waiter shows up, and brings you half a steak. He says “Here’s half a steak at full price. We won’t be able to bring you the other half, but if you wait a while longer we’ll bring you another one, although you’ll have to pay for the second.” Outraged, you could storm off without paying, and eat no steak. Or, you could eat your half a steak and enjoy it, be it a little overpriced, because you REALLY wanted that steak, and when the second steak comes you can enjoy that steak too, because you really do love steak.
If you don’t want Yakuza 4 by all means keep bitching and don’t buy Yakuza 3, but if I loved something enough to care about it’s content I would just be happy and enjoy the content I have. They didn’t have to keep releasing sequels to a game that only sold 40 thousand copies.
It’s been a week since I announced we were going to have a budget, be obligated to stick to it, and not spend anymore money on my credit cards. With 39 dollars in the bank, we set out to wait until payday. (Tomorrow) A trip to the grocery store and my mutual funds has left out current bank balance to be $-15. (OK I forgot the mutual funds were coming out.)
Anyway, here is the budget I’ve come up that will be implemented tomorrow.
Food $184.62
Entertainment $69.23
Clothes/Gifts $26.54
Everything else 32.77
Total Jar Money 313.15
So where does the rest of our after mortgage and utilities money go? My buy-now-pay-later laptop is due next month, and I still have almost 500 to pay, there’s also an accountant that needs paying back and 500 dollars in immigration fees for my lovely husband. I’m also going to Disneyland next February, damn it!
Still funny.
I’m not oodles in debt. I don’t have 27 department store credit cards at 28.8% or 30k in student loans. I do have around 2k of debt, and being on mat leave means me making more money really isn’t an option. We can sustain what we’re doing, but we’re never going to fix our broken sink, finish our fence or travel to Disneyland.
I was expecting to get a few tip on how to manage my money, build a budget, and paying off debt, and that was there. I have a fantastic budget that balances and allows me to not only pay off my debt, but save money for the future, and future purchases. I went through my finances, I know that I spend over $300 a month on average on eating out!
I wasn’t expecting this book to cover the psychological reasons why we spend money, and different ways to overcome different forms of dispute. It was really time to analyze why you spend money, and what your priorities are. How can you say your children are you priority when you have no education savings for them, no emergency funds if something were to go wrong and can’t afford to buy fresh fruits and vegetables for the table?
Now that I’ve finished reading, I have a much better understanding about retirement and education savings plans, emergency funds, tax free savings account, credit ratings and life insurance. I feel motivated and empowered to make financial decisions that do not provide instant gratification, but ones that will provide a safety net for my family and future.
Another surprising thing was that Gail Vaz-Oxlade is a very good writer. Just coming off reading “Does This Clutter Make My Butt Look Fat” (which was terrible) I welcomed the words of a competent writer.
Every word can be listened to, every story internalized, every tip and tidbit followed. It shows that Gail is confident with what she’s saying as she writes it, and that confidence moved to you as you read. It’s truly a case of ‘if you believe it will work and follow it, then it will work’.
Whether you’re crazy in debt or just trying to get ahead, this book can help you. I would definitely recommend it.
PS if this is Kaitlin readingI will lend it to you when my mom is done.
I’ve been trying to (once again) refinish Majora’s Mask, after watching an inspiring speed run the other day. Friday and Saturday, I played for a couple of hours and finally quit playing just outside of Woodfall temple. I resumed my save Saturday night and just started on the dungeon, when Kylie decided to turn off the Wii. To understand why this is a big deal, you need to know how Majora’s Mask’s save system works.
To save, you can either a) Save and return to the first day or b) Save on an owl statue.
When you save and return to the first day, you lose all your money and ammo, plus you always start back in Clock Town, which is not very practical when you’re in a dungeon.
If you save on an owl statue, you save and quit. Once you resume that save once, it’s gone, you have to save again.
When Kylie turned off the system I lost everything from the time I last went to the first day to the start of the Woodfall temple, which is everything leading up to the dungeon, or about 45 minutes of gameplay. That evening I went back and refinished that part in record time, and quit in the same spot outside Woodfall.
Today I went back and finished the temple, collecting all 15 missing fairies inside. I returned the Deku princess to her father and completed the butler’s challenge to get the pig mask. After leaving the place where the butler was I went to pause the game, and it froze.
Seeing as when I started playing I had resumed from an owl statue, I was taken back to when I last saved and returned to the first day, which was exactly where I started after Kylie turned off the system. 3 or so hours, lost.
Needless to say I threw the controller across the room and haven’t touched it since, only I really want to keep playing. We’ll see if I feel like finishing that dungeon again.
Kylie greets me in bed, asking for ice cream with cookies in it. “Go see dada” I instruct. It’s 8:30am. Marcus wakes up. Kylie tells me she has colouring on her hand. I tell her to go show dada. She leaves, I try and get Marcus back asleep. She cries from the hall for Deacon to open the office door. He’s not in the office, I yell for her to look in the living room. Marcus isn’t going back to sleep. Deacon’s not there, Kylie cries. I suddenly remember that he had planned to go to the gym this morning, the phone ringing at 6am makes sense. I tell her that dada’s gone out. She asks for breakfast. I go to the bathroom, she has a tantrum. We go into her room, I change and dress Marcus. I ask her to come get dressed, she runs away. I get the clothes ready and sit on the floor. She comes back, takes the clothes, and runs away. My frustration builds. I try repeatedly to get her dressed, it doesn’t work. She laughs, runs around and throws her clothes. I sit in silence and try and stay clam. Eventually she gives up and puts on her dress. I have to help her. She tries to put on her panties, wrong. I have to help her. She lets me put on her pants and fix her socks. We go to have breakfast. Why is Deacon’s bowl in the sink intstead of the dishwasher? Kylie refuses to eat her cereal and instead spills the milk all over her table. I’m frustrated and exhausted. It’s only quarter after 9.
At 5am when I was trading off being up with each kid, I was just thinking about how I would make Deacon take the kids in the morning and I could sleep in. This would have been the only day this week I would have been able to do this. Now that Deacon plans on going to the gym Friday, Saturday and Sunday mornings, I will have the kids 7 mornings a week. This morning was especially difficult due to a long night and a very rough day yesterday. Deacon worked all morning and helped my mom’s boyfriend move all afternoon. Not saying it wasn’t a long and difficult day for him either, but not nearly as aggrivating as mine.
I love my children, but they wear my patience thin and I haven’t gotten much of a break from them and the housework lately.